tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post2387401823137758518..comments2024-03-22T14:46:37.849-04:00Comments on A Fly on Our (Chicken Coop) Wall: Anger. Ours. Not Theirs.Christinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-15067534134461477862015-04-02T15:00:40.388-04:002015-04-02T15:00:40.388-04:00Excellent ideas!!! I wish had I more patient and ...Excellent ideas!!! I wish had I more patient and took the time to enjoy the times when the boys were little. It goes by so fast and of course when people tell you that...you really don't believe them. As I have gotten older I have learned to see the humour in most things otherwise there would be an awful lot of tears. :D<br />@dkotuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18395598913393994830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-46509263501526268732015-04-02T14:36:21.662-04:002015-04-02T14:36:21.662-04:00Wow - Beautifully written and great advice; James ...Wow - Beautifully written and great advice; James will be 14 in 2 months and boy or boy it shows - so yes your words are greatly appreciated. I went back and read the post about Giant; what great advice. I'm sorry but I get that there are some kids that just drain the heck out of everyone; but I always say it, just scratch that surface and there is always goodness under there. <br /><br />My kids are proof - you know how many people would nod there heads when they heard we were adopting older kids and internationally - the thing is we met them first before we adopted (for 3 weeks) and yes we scratched the surface and saw good loving children. :)Marisa Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09818816716586417433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-32540380260713877892015-04-02T10:39:55.537-04:002015-04-02T10:39:55.537-04:00I haven't always been so smart as to stop and ...I haven't always been so smart as to stop and ask. I've gotten better the more times I've been tested. :) My goal is to always ask a question to give them a chance to explain what they are doing before making any assessment. It usually happens.<br /><br />I would have worried if you didn't say something borderline offensive. :)<br /><br />I try really hard to keep things light. It's gotten much harder as the kids have gotten into their teen years. Wow. Not that they are bad kids, but it's really hard to forget that they shouldn't be expected to act like an adult, even when they are bigger than most adults. (of course, there are plenty of examples of adults who have never learned to act like an adult...but I digress...)<br /><br />Yeah, I doubt he wants one. He is in the about me page, though. It's a little compromise. <br /><br />Thank you!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-50296486045376293602015-04-02T10:35:15.425-04:002015-04-02T10:35:15.425-04:00I'm glad! No, I imagine you haven't had re...I'm glad! No, I imagine you haven't had reason to be mad at that sweet little thing yet. I hope it doesn't come for a long time. :) If he is anything like Phoenix, it probably won't. It wasn't until Phoenix was much older that he did anything to make me angry.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-31930184711750449232015-04-02T09:34:03.567-04:002015-04-02T09:34:03.567-04:00Good morning,
I have no idea how or why I am up, ...Good morning,<br /><br />I have no idea how or why I am up, but here I am! I like number 1 and 2 because they deal a lot with patience and assessing the situation before reacting. So many people, including myself sometimes, are prone to knee-jerk reactions. With your story about Buttercup, I can't imagine very many mothers I know who would have investigated before simply lashing out and berating their child. This is unfortunate. I feel when it comes to kids, those first two situations are fairly common. What they are doing, and how others perceive what they are doing, are not always the same.<br /><br />How do I avoid getting angry at my children? I avoid having them. I wrap it and then I double wrap it! HA sorry, it's been too long, so I had to be a little raunchy no?<br /><br />I'm pretty sure from what I've gleaned in the past that you laugh more than yell when it comes to the antics involving your children.<br /><br />I mean just look at them on the sidebar. Innocent little angels, each and every one of them! By the way, why hasn't your hubby received a coveted sidebar slot yet? You know he wants one!<br /><br />Good luck with the A to Z, I hope to stop by as often as I can!Jakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05069266783997777691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-68317866069546447702015-04-02T07:38:41.723-04:002015-04-02T07:38:41.723-04:00I was wondering that later on .... hahahaha! Funny...I was wondering that later on .... hahahaha! Funny I meant to get back to your Mom's selfie post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11630958840521397718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-14743680233013442082015-04-01T23:24:14.543-04:002015-04-01T23:24:14.543-04:00Really enjoyed this post! I haven't really ex...Really enjoyed this post! I haven't really experienced much anger towards baby boy yet, but I am well aware that the time is coming where I will. I know very well that I just got lucky that he is so even-tempered so far (he reminds me of the way you talk about Phoenix) and that it isn't anything I have done. Just telling him "no" calmly at this stage produces a face of hurt and tears. Bless his sweet soul! Anyway, I will be certainly keeping this post in my mind for the future, because I know these moments are coming!!Lanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09664068521097565025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-8539168225361224902015-04-01T22:49:42.439-04:002015-04-01T22:49:42.439-04:00Ah! MUSIC! Great suggestion!! I don't know if ...Ah! MUSIC! Great suggestion!! I don't know if I've ever sat and sang with one of my kids with a songbook. Shoot, we don't even have a songbook. We do sing, but with the help of a CD. But, it works well to break tension and get our moods to lighten. Thank you!<br /><br />And praying, of course. I sometimes forget that not everyone does that. :)Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-33476803602443959322015-04-01T22:47:30.158-04:002015-04-01T22:47:30.158-04:00Ha! Your comment did make it through, but on a dif...Ha! Your comment did make it through, but on a different post. I was wondering why you'd want to print off a post about my mom. :)<br /><br />I am so glad something I wrote could help someone. I will say some prayers for your friend. Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-15226660039389033942015-04-01T22:45:21.002-04:002015-04-01T22:45:21.002-04:00Bryan and I used to counsel engaged couples before...Bryan and I used to counsel engaged couples before they married, and we always talked about families of origin. In times of stress, we almost always go back to what we're used to. It takes a conscience effort and a lot of work not to. Sounds like you did a lot of work, because I know you were in a lot of stress when the kids were young. I don't completely avoid the behavior either. We're human and make mistakes.<br />Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-63638284881346912862015-04-01T22:42:35.173-04:002015-04-01T22:42:35.173-04:00It is because we love them so much that we try so ...It is because we love them so much that we try so very hard to improve and stay calm.<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-30168292474940141992015-04-01T22:40:57.270-04:002015-04-01T22:40:57.270-04:00I look forward to seeing you around and seeing som...I look forward to seeing you around and seeing some more of your lifehacks!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-18677369114202990962015-04-01T22:40:19.806-04:002015-04-01T22:40:19.806-04:00I'm working on it right along with you. Pretty...I'm working on it right along with you. Pretty sure I'll be working on it until the day Cuckoo moves out. :)Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-63335414314328144042015-04-01T22:39:10.995-04:002015-04-01T22:39:10.995-04:00You are so sweet. Now it's the end. :)You are so sweet. Now it's the end. :) Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-43122913956087594142015-04-01T22:38:46.513-04:002015-04-01T22:38:46.513-04:00Well, thank you very much, Sandee!
My kids are go...Well, thank you very much, Sandee! <br />My kids are going to have t-shirts made up to make fun of all of my sayings someday...<br /><br />I tell them frequently that they can't control someone else's behavior, but they can control their reaction to it. It's hard to control it, but it is so important to do so!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-91655406245224171662015-04-01T21:59:05.918-04:002015-04-01T21:59:05.918-04:00I love all your ideas. I would add, "and pra...I love all your ideas. I would add, "and pray" to your third suggestion. (You did pray, of course, so that isn't a new idea.) I have also found that music is a great tool. When I would get frustrated when my oldest was a toddler, I would often grab the children's songbook and sit and sing with my child. One day, he was the one who went and got the book and led me over to the rocking chair! Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14136276061114462192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-56941861272007076712015-04-01T21:39:43.732-04:002015-04-01T21:39:43.732-04:00I dont know if my comment came out this morning or...I dont know if my comment came out this morning or not... WHEW... always... anyway I just wanted you to know that I copied this post and gave it to someone today who is feeling overwhelmed with yelling at kids...not her style typically.... she was so appreciative... she is a good friend and really is just too stressed lately.... I think this helped her put things in perspective! Thanks.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11630958840521397718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-49306748742535498112015-04-01T20:41:23.448-04:002015-04-01T20:41:23.448-04:00I was raised by parents who yelled, stormed, slapp...I was raised by parents who yelled, stormed, slapped, and derided. That resulted in a great deal of frustration, rage, and defeat. I did better with my own two kids, but by no means completely avoided such behavior. I wish I had known then what you know. I am always amazed at how well they've turned out despite parenting that was at best well-intended. I think your best advice is to adults and children alike is not to respond in fits of rage, this can cause damage that will last a lifetime, and the regrets will be huge. Walk away and breathe! Great post!!Josie Two Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18388032819905416258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-60639967405024852892015-04-01T20:01:08.403-04:002015-04-01T20:01:08.403-04:00Children of our lives but they can be a pain at ti...Children of our lives but they can be a pain at times but we still love them no matter what they do wrong. They are our destinies. Have a wonderful evening. See ya.<br /><br />Cruisin PaulCruisin Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13137904435537645207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-34931914288347463922015-04-01T15:22:45.225-04:002015-04-01T15:22:45.225-04:00Wonderful suggestions! I'm your newest followe...Wonderful suggestions! I'm your newest follower. :-) I'm blogging "Lifehacks for Christian Moms" at http://achristianmomsguide.blogspot.com/ . Editor and Publisher Shelly Burkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13549811506536666763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-11204379620218266512015-04-01T14:31:06.106-04:002015-04-01T14:31:06.106-04:00I guess I exalt folly (though I'm not entirely...I guess I exalt folly (though I'm not entirely sure what that means) because I am quick-tempered. My kids have heard me apologize for losing my tempter too many times. It's something I work on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03624509801901211108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-34576202350087414972015-04-01T14:27:04.441-04:002015-04-01T14:27:04.441-04:00You are an awesome mom. The end.You are an awesome mom. The end.Dyanne @ I Want Backsieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04946323852124525597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-89257130276217608992015-04-01T13:36:02.963-04:002015-04-01T13:36:02.963-04:00Kids can be trying, but our reaction to the things...Kids can be trying, but our reaction to the things they do is key to our survival. You seem to approach things very well if you ask me.<br /><br />Have a fabulous day. ☺Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-82980878334355289782015-04-01T13:02:44.096-04:002015-04-01T13:02:44.096-04:00Thank you.
It is astounding how kids can change d...Thank you.<br /><br />It is astounding how kids can change depending on who is in charge. I saw it all the time as a teacher. At a conference, I'll tell a parent how well-behaved and kind her child is, while the parent is astounded. Based on the child's behavior at home, she was prepared to hear all sorts of problems from me. I see it with my nieces and nephews, too. When they stay with us, they are very different than when their parents are around. It is fascinating, really.<br /><br />Pat yourself on the back for those times you've thought things through. It isn't easy to do. I always get so happy with myself when it's all over if I've handled it properly. :)Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1329563580023354380.post-36122087983676894222015-04-01T12:59:12.904-04:002015-04-01T12:59:12.904-04:00Thanks Val. It is very hard for kids to understand...Thanks Val. It is very hard for kids to understand, especially the sensitive ones. Turken hates to get in trouble, so even just talking to him in a normal voice gets him all teary. When people yell, not even at him, he gets scared. I'm even more careful with him. <br />Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209807996463889703noreply@blogger.com